Below is a question asked and a channeled answer.
Q. Just “being” and living day-to-day can sometimes feel a bit boring, even a little morose. While I really do appreciate what I have, being grateful only goes so far for me. Shouldn’t I want to strive for more? Shouldn’t I hope to keep experiencing new things?
For instance, I currently don’t own a car. I want one, so now I want something more. I also dream of having a house in the country. Having a house is beyond what I have now. How does this desire for more align with the concepts of “just being,” “living in the present,” or “being grateful for what I have”?
My feelings of wanting more seem wrong, and I often feel guilty about it. It feels like I’m not being true to the lesson of living in the moment and appreciating each day. When every day feels repetitive or grueling—when you’re not looking forward to anything—how can one process these conflicting feelings?
A. Bingo. After all that brain dump you’re getting to the final point of it all, feelings. How do you process feelings? What are the feelings you are having? Can you change how you’re feeling about something? About anything? The answer is unequivocally yes! You change how you feel about it.
So right now you have no car. You have recognized previously that it’s been an adventure, a treat, and even a skill to learn the bus and rail system and you have enjoyed this adventure. The time may be here when you are ready for the next adventure. Perhaps you could acknowledge, to yourself, that this has been fun, but you are ready for what comes next, and then you can continue to appreciate what you have and look forward to what comes next. Might we suggest that when “what’s next” does not seem to be appearing, perhaps it is you that needs to take the next step? Yes, we have heard your previous laments regarding all the steps you have taken that you believe have been for naught. We are here to tell you your life is not over. You don’t know what’s been for naught…yet. And nothing is ever for naught, everything is experience.
When you are ready for change, the idea for change will nag at you, so then stay open for opportunities that might move you in another direction. An idea, a happenstance, a phone call out of the blue. Know that change is coming or you wouldn’t be anticipating it. Be excited for it, but live for today, because you will never ever have two days exactly the same.
There is nothing wrong with wanting more. There is nothing wrong with any thought or feeling you have. You are you and your feelings are your feelings justified by your experiences. You can change how you feel about something or someone but that is totally your choice. Guilt is a feeling too, but not a feeling that is useful. In an experience of wanting to overcome, guilt will hold you back from moving forward, from overcoming.
When wanting to overcome living in a state of lack and limitations, guilt inhibits movement forward, it holds you back, as if you are telling yourself you are not worthy of getting out of a situation that causes you unhappiness. That’s what guilt is, a feeling of unworthiness. As if you don’t deserve…fill in the blank. So you are feeling guilty when you want more (a car, a home) because somewhere inside your psyche you believe you don’t deserve it, and by not being grateful for what you have, or only being grateful for what you have, you are being selfish or getting ahead of your station, of what you deserve, as if…” how dare you…”
Might we suggest that this is a lesson for you? A lesson in learning that the impetus of your guilt is this belief that you are not worthy of whatever it is you seek. But, you see, how that thought, that feeling, will keep you in the state of where you are? Of course, where you are is lovely, it is fine, but it’s OK to want more. It’s ok! There is absolutely nothing wrong with having a car and taking public transportation. There is nothing wrong with wanting a country home and a city apartment. Plenty of people do this and more! There is nothing wrong with any desire you desire. Nothing is too much to wish for. Nothing. Desire away. Know that rising above your guilty feelings of unworthiness is a big lesson for you and a lesson for jillions of other people on the planet.
For too long you have all believed there is not enough to go around, that money doesn’t grow on trees, and the like. Money does grow on trees. Money is paper. It is exactly that, trees. There are enough trees to print money. But you don’t need to be concerned with money, how it’s made, or where it comes from. Deal with your feelings. Your feelings of self-worth. Know you deserve happiness in whatever form that comes in. And you are free to try all forms of happiness.
Last year happiness was an adventure in public transportation. This year happiness can mean something else. You are allowed to keep having experiences that make you happy. You are allowed to change those levels of experiences to encourage more or different feelings of happiness. This year you were happy being single. Next year maybe happiness involves partnership (just as an example). Whatever happiness means to you, know it is your birthright, your God-given right, it is why you are here on Earth, to experience Joy and Happiness. When you are desiring happiness be assured you are living God’s dream and your purpose. Your purpose to find happiness, to be in happiness, to be in happiness because that is when you feel connected to God, to Source. And that is the phase of evolution we are in. To reconnect with Source. To know you are connected. Living in happiness is the way to get there.
The secret to all life is to live in Joy, to live in happiness. If you are not happy, change your circumstances and/or your perspective. Each individual has their own interpretation of happiness. Don’t let another’s beliefs affect your desires or what you think you deserve. Just because A. B. or C. was not part of your childhood does not have any bearing whatsoever in what you deserve. Your childhood may influence your perceptions of happiness, so acknowledge these thoughts and understand your desires might stem from your early experiences, as well as your guilt and perceived self-worth. Your childhood was an experience for a reason, a springboard for your adult life. Learn from it. Use the best parts from it. The best parts of happiness times and overcome the not-so-pleasant ones and move on with your life. If there is a nagging voice saying you are not worthy, or you don’t deserve, or any self-defeating thoughts like those, release them and know just by being in the world, you are worthy. You are God for heaven’s sake! How can you not be worthy?
You are worthy of a car, you are worthy of a home, you are worthy of happiness in whatever form you choose. You are allowed to change your mind about what happiness means to you. You are allowed to try new or different ideas of happiness. You are only beholding to yourself. You are worthy.
If you would like to ask your own question of the Universe, please send it to Lynn Carol. I will post the question and answer on this blog, anonymously.
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