The Inheritance We Don’t Need to Keep

A few weeks ago, I wrote a post that explored a similar theme—ancestral patterns, inherited expectations, and all the emotional hand-me-downs we didn’t exactly ask for. That one came from a personal lens, rooted in my own lineage.

This week, the question showed up again when I asked a friend to help spark a topic for the blog. She started tossing out ideas, and I found myself saying, “Wait… this sounds familiar.” Then she texted back, “You’re not the boss of me!” I thought she was just being funny (actually I thought she was having a stroke or answering someone else’s text). Turns out—when I started pulling this blog together—I saw that was actually the title of my earlier post. (You’re not the Boss of Me) LOL. I guess she remembered better than I did.

Apparently, this is one of those questions that wants to be answered from a different angle. So, I fed her ideas into AI to help shape the question. I channeled the answer. AI added a summary. And just like that, we had a mini cosmic writing team this week—collaboration across realms.

Q. To what extent do we inherit the emotional patterns, traumas, and unfinished stories of our ancestors? Is it our responsibility to heal or transform what they could not? To mend what was broken, to feel what went unfelt? Is their trauma a shadow we carry?

A. The answer is not only for your friend, but for all. Everyone has ancestors, and all have unfulfilled lives, from your current perspective. (Many do anyway) Which right there is the answer. It’s your or their perspective that makes you (and them) believe there was a life unfulfilled, a trauma that may carry karma, an unfinished story you must complete.

The answer is no, none of this or that is your responsibility.  Not at all.

When you understand that each soul, each individual soul, has their own individual blueprint to experience – for their benefit – regardless of what you think of their life – their life was of their choosing and therefore to their benefit.  Totally separate from your blueprint – EXCEPT (yes, sorry) except for the residual emotional patterns that you were no doubt raised with. These emotional patterns, in many cases, will have been imprinted into your behaviors. And it is your responsibility to release these emotional patterns.

One of those imprinted emotions, if you are asking this question, was no doubt guilt. The parent, the ancestor, felt guilt for whatever reason, which was passed on to you as a normal behavior. So here you are with your parents’ guilt. You have no idea what to do with it, so you associate it with whatever your parent went through, whether it is known to you or not, and then often times you either feel it’s your role to resolve it or you get angry at your parent for laying the guilt trip on you, and then you could possibly pass that anger on to your lineage, and on and on.

But now you know!  This lineage, this perspective, believing there was anything wrong with whatever actions or feelings or situations went on in their lives – it was their life!! Not yours!  You are no more responsible for their life than you are for a complete stranger, as far as embodying it as your own.  Each of you has your own set of life experiences to live out, at your pre-life’s choosing. These are the experiences, your experiences, you should be focusing on.

Now, what to do with the passed-on trauma? The emotional patterns? You let it go of course. You don’t relive it, you don’t perpetuate it. It’s not yours at all. You let it go. You reframe it emotionally with the understanding, respect, and reverence the memory deserves. If it was what you would consider a “horrible” circumstance, then you look at that and say to yourself, “Whoa, what a lesson they chose to learn, God bless them,” and that’s that. It was their lesson. And once you can embody that understanding and that perspective, all that emotional baggage will be lifted. You are not here, on this Earth, to complete anything they may have left unfinished. It is up to their soul to finish it or not. Not up to you.

On the other hand, you can heal their past by not perpetuating it in yourself and into the future. You break the cycle, you break the pattern when you release it. In that way, you are releasing their pain, and that could very well be an experience you chose to overcome. To overcome the ancestral pattern of passing down patterns! Understand it’s not your pattern and you will help your lineage by releasing it.

But we do feel that the best way to release it is by shifting your perspective on what you consider “bad” and by understanding that each individual soul has their own blueprint to play out and experience. It was never yours to carry on.

Q. What about good ancestral lineage? Bloodlines, royalty, gifts like musical or psychic abilities passed on?

A. These are more like learned behaviors. Musical prodigies often come from families with no musical background. Conversely, a musical or artistic lineage will have that “energy” in the household. There will be a piano (for instance), there will be lessons, and there will be the discipline of practice. As for psychic abilities passed down, there will be practices of trusting your intuition. A knowing opened up and respected, and that knowing, trusting in yourself, is passed down. The same way guilt is passed down.

Bloodlines – there are some alien behaviors associated with bloodlines, as discussed in the book (Back to Being) – different races have their beginning, their origins from different planets. But bloodlines, like royalty, that’s bunk. Ridiculous. But, probably based on years and years and YEARS ago of alien origin thinking.

Remember, all souls are extensions of God, the one vibration. You all, including alien life, are all from the one Source – all parts of the one consciousness here to have a life experience. No one is more special.  Everyone has a different “assigned” experience, and all data learned through your experience goes back to the one Source. And this data is to grow God’s, the one Source’s consciousness. All experiences are absorbed because God chooses to experience them all. So, just focus on your experience, not your ancestors.  No reason to have repeats.

PS – also keep in mind, you are not responsible for your children’s experiences either. You do your best as a parent, try not to pass down guilt or trauma. Lead by example and remember their experiences, they chose as well.

xoxoxo

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Here is AI summary of the channeled message:

🪶 Summary of the Channeling

This week’s message is a powerful reframe on ancestral inheritance—not as a weight to carry, but as an invitation to observe, honor, and release. While we may feel echoes of our ancestors’ emotional patterns, traumas, and unfinished stories, we are not obligated to heal what they could not. Their experiences were chosen by their souls, just as ours were chosen by us.

That said, the emotions we inherit—like guilt, shame, fear, or even psychic sensitivity—can be passed down through behavior, culture, and energetic imprinting. These patterns may feel like ours, but they often originate from others. By shifting our perspective and choosing not to reenact those inherited responses, we break the cycle. And in doing so, we create space for healing—not by taking responsibility for their wounds, but by honoring our own wholeness.

Healing is not about effort—it’s about recognition. Understanding that every soul, including our ancestors, is navigating its own sacred blueprint.

✨ Reflective Questions

• What emotion do I carry that may not be mine?
• Where am I reenacting a story instead of writing my own?
• What would change if I trusted my soul’s blueprint more than my family’s patterns?

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