Shedding Expectations, Remembering Truth

I am not on my game this week. Well, actually I am on my game, just a different game, and I didn’t get around to blogging so I’m going to post a question and answer from the book, Back to Being.

Q. How do others’ thoughts about us influence our growth or mindset? If everyone expects you to be an idiot, or if everyone sees you as a savior or prophet, how do these various expectations impact your life’s development?

A. On one hand, it only affects you as much as you allow it. Granted, if from birth you are told negative comments continuously it takes a strong person not to take it to heart and be the person you are told you are. You will have been brainwashed. At some point in your life, when you want to grow up from childhood harassment, you can start to see the truth about yourself and how you were affected by the lies you were brought up to believe about yourself.

There are many forms of abuse and manipulation. By family, friends, churches, classmates. It can be overwhelming and impossible to live up to anyone’s standards. Good and bad. Therefore, it is a wise decision to leave your birthplace for a time to allow yourself the space needed to discover who you really are. Peer and family pressures are real and can be suffocating and stifling. Many who thrive in high school will never want to move on from their glory days. Many who are introverted in high school thrive later in life when they find their niche. As is written in the Bible in Mark 6:4, Jesus says, “A prophet has little honor in his hometown, among his relatives, on the streets he played in as a child”. In Luke 4:24, Jesus says, “Amen I say to you, that no prophet is accepted in his own country.” Jesus felt the limitations that his community thrust upon him. But he was wise enough to recognize it, accept it, and move past it.

There are reasons your soul picked the community you grow up in. Whether for the love and support it provides or for the challenges to overcome. Nothing is without purpose. One thing, among many, that is always true, is that each and every one of you have limitless powers and are capable of moving mountains. How you choose to accept this and incorporate this awareness is your purpose. And it IS your purpose to remember who you are, where you came from (the Universe), and that you are never alone in fighting your demons. You have the love and support of the Universe.

Once you have decided to move past the limiting beliefs of your community, your higher self and guiding angels will help guide you and lead you in the direction of your goal of remembering who you are. You are all here to remember. It’s a challenge you all accepted when incarnating on Earth at this time. You all chose to forget, for the challenge of remembering.

Humanity is evolving and more and more people are seeking answers to what life is all about. That is why these writings are so important and needed now. People are looking for guidance past, and beyond, what they have learned so far. The answers to what the “more” is of life. What “more” are you/they looking for? More of what?

You will find answers, directions, and signs, in books, in movies, in a stranger’s passing statement. Be open to listening and listening with your heart. Know that any criticism is coming from an emotionally unhealthy, but often well-meaning, person. Believe it all and believe none of it. Learn the art of discernment. If you are told you are being too judgmental, that may not mean the other person is mentally unstable! You may very well be too judgmental and this advice may be coming from your angel guidance to help you become aware of it. However, if someone tells you “You’ll never amount to anything” or that “you can’t possibly achieve your dreams”, cut that person loose from your life. These are the people, typically from your home community, that will most often be threatened by you and so they try and manipulate your thoughts and keep you “down” or less than and that gives them more negative energy. Just don’t play into that kind of talk, or that kind of treatment. Thank them for their time and walk away.

We go back to learning to be strong in yourself. Learn to be brave, have the courage to see the truths about yourselves and about your loved ones. It can be devastating to realize it’s your family and friends who have led you to believe you have no or little self-worth or to keep you, or put you, on a path of “their” choosing that has led to your unhappiness. Because you love your family and friends, recognizing this behavior in them can be very traumatic and very sad, but then here is where you start grounding yourselves in your own convictions to be strong. Love unconditionally and move on.

Recognizing and accepting the truth of being lied to your whole life is the biggest first step you can take. Then, you are ready to take responsibility for your own actions. You should never blame them. You thank them for playing a part in your soul’s journey drama and accept the challenge of moving beyond it.

Remember you chose the parameters of your life’s story. You chose the challenges. Earth is where you come to overcome challenges and separation. Now think about that sentence. It’s where you come to overcome the challenges. You did not come here to perpetuate the challenges and cause even more separations. You came here to OVERCOME them, to remember who you are, and to reconnect with your higher consciousness. And then help others to remember and reconnect just by living your life. Others will live by your example. Others will gravitate towards your vibration, your higher frequency. You don’t have to be a preacher or guru. You can sell eggs in the marketplace, you can be a computer operator, a doorman, a salesperson, a hockey player, a mother, father, brother, guardian, baker, gardener, or candlestick maker. You are free to be whoever you want to be, no longer having to prove yourself to anyone or even prove yourself to yourself. No more proving, just living. Freedom to live your life however you choose. That is the reward of life. Freedom. Find your freedom and others will be drawn by your example.

xoxox

Summary: Shedding Expectations, Remembering Truth

This post explores how others’ perceptions—whether they label us as failures, saviors, or fools—can deeply shape our mindset and growth. While external expectations can be manipulative or abusive, especially from family, peers, or religious communities, the path to healing begins with recognizing these distortions and reclaiming your truth.

Drawing on spiritual wisdom and biblical references, the post reminds readers that even Jesus was dismissed in his hometown, showing that societal limitations are not personal failures. The soul chooses its birthplace for growth, whether through love or challenge, and each person carries the power to overcome these inherited beliefs.

The journey of self-discovery involves:

• Leaving behind toxic environments to gain clarity
• Listening with discernment to criticism and praise
• Accepting the pain of betrayal or manipulation without blame
• Reconnecting with your higher self and universal support
• Living freely, without needing to prove your worth

Ultimately, this is a call to remember who you truly are—a soul with limitless potential, here to overcome separation and embody truth. Your life becomes a beacon not through preaching, but through authentic living. Whether you’re a gardener or a hockey player, your vibration speaks louder than words.